HCO | Reece's Rainbow

International adoption is a funny thing. Well, I'm sure I'll think it's funny a year from now when I'm no longer in the midst of our current chaos.

If you've been following along, you know that last week we were told that our High Court Order was not going to be ready until late July (originally promised mid June), and to keep our timeline expectations low. So we did.

Here's where the funny part comes in. Monday morning we got the call that HCO had been issued. We were free to make travel arrangements. We are going to be bringing our son home in two short weeks! It was truly one of the biggest surprises of my life (and one of the best). For one reason or another, our High Court Order was already complete and everything is now in place for us to travel on the 17th. It's not exactly late July, but we will take it!

The 24 hours since finding this out has been a blur. We've booked flights and a hotel, sent off our itinerary requests, and asked ourselves if this is REALLY happening about a hundred times. Things are finally falling into place, and we are so very happy. I will finally get to wrap my son up in my arms and make up for all of the years we missed out on each other. It seems surreal to think that in a few short weeks, our son will finally be sleeping in his bed that has sat empty for over a year. Our hard work is FINALLY paying off!

We leave in ten short days, and are only $1,218 from being fully funded! To be fully funded, our Reece's Rainbow FSP would read $8,912. We were so incredibly lucky to have gotten a great deal on both our hotel and airfare, so our need is much less than we originally thought. If you would like to make a last minute tax deductible donation, just follow the Reece's Rainbow link on the side of this page. You will be able to make donations up until we arrive home.

Thank you to everyone who has prayed for us, graciously donated towards our fundraisers, and to those who love our boy just as much as we do. Although this adoption has not been easy, it has absolutely been worth it. We are so excited to share this journey with you all and can't wait to start our life as a family of FIVE!

Another month. | Reece's Rainbow

Today, as I anxiously awaited the call that we had received the High Court Order, I instead got an email from our agency.

Another month.

From the mouth of the same person who told us to expect HCO in mid June, now comes news that we should HOPE for HCO at the END OF JULY. I can't tell you how many different emotions I am feeling today. None of them are emotions I thought I would have to experience again during this adoption.

 When I was a kid my step mom told me "You can endure anything as long as you know it will eventually end". I can't tell you how many times I thought this waiting was about to end, only to find out we have to wait a little longer. Each time I think my heart can't take any more waiting or any more disappointment, it seems like we get more bad news.

I can't explain how greatly I am mourning not having my son at home where he belongs. I know that this waiting will only make it that much sweeter when I do finally hold him in my arms, but my heart has grown weary.

And we wait. | Reece's Rainbow

In May we were told to expect travel approval in the middle of June. It is now June 23rd and still we wait with no end in sight. This means we are unable to book flights, hotel rooms, arrange childcare for the girls, house and pet sitters, etc. We were initially told to expect to travel at the end of this week, which is obviously not happening. At this point we have no real expectation of when we will travel. I could go on and on about the ways this has inconvenienced us, but what is truly upsetting to me is that our son continues to wait on the other side of the world while we (STILL) wait for someone to complete our paperwork. We have been assured there are no current delays, but considering the fact that we still don't have travel approval means that we are obviously delayed. For anyone adopting or planning to adopt internationally, I would say absolutely, with all certainty, DO NOT MOVE during your adoption. It has caused so many added expenses and delays beyond our comprehension and our son is the one paying for it. He is the one who continues to live in an institutional setting and not know his true worth as our son. We could have been home months ago, but our move has caused numerous delays and problems with this adoption. Had we seen all of this coming, it would have been a very difficult decision to proceed with our move.

We have been able to Skype with our little guy once a week for the last few weeks, which has been the only bright spot we have had lately. He loves his sisters and is a little scared of our big dog, we've learned.

I wish that I had a better update and that I wasn't writing with such a heavy heart. Yet, this is our reality and I wanted to share an honest picture of where things stand.

Also, I just wanted to say a special thanks to those of you who have continued to be there for us during this hard time. It is now when you find out who is really there for you, when things get messy and it's not exactly easy to be there for us. We have some really special friends and family who are helping us get through and I truly appreciate you fantastic human beings!

Preparing for Travel | Reece's Rainbow

It seems unreal that in a few short weeks we will be meeting our son. Not only are we just meeting our son, we're becoming parents again. To a BOY this time. To a child older than we've ever parented before. To a child with special needs. To a child who does not speak the same language as us. To a child who will go to school in the fall. Can you tell there are a few things on my mind these days?

We had the precious opportunity to meet him via Skype this week (!!!!!!). Words cannot express how great it feels to finally see your child and have him see you, and he didn't even run away and hide from the scary crying lady on the computer screen (he did, though, hang up on us once. We'll let that one slide). And to think our meeting almost didn't happen because I forgot a small detail (13 hour time difference) and had the completely wrong day on my calendar. Luckily we are blessed with the most amazing program director at our agency who literally got ahold of me from a tarmac to make sure the meeting happened. I will forever be grateful for her dedication to this process. Dillon International, y'all. Could not have asked for better people in our corner.

So more about our meeting! I heard the words "My mommy" (in English!) within the first thirty seconds of the call, and it was so surreal. I know that he was likely prepped for our meeting by the social worker, but just to know that this boy is opening his heart to us is such an amazing feeling. There are some children who have no desire to be adopted, so hearing his excitement in meeting us was very reassuring. Claire was so enthralled with her new brother, as he was with her! He kept asking her to dance with him (how did he know she was the dance master?) and he went crazy when he got to see his dog, Ozzy (our 100 pound Bernese Mountain Dog). I loved to see the interaction between the kids and hope we keep that momentum going when he gets home.

Although the last two years have gone by at snail speed, it seems like the last month has went by in the blink of an eye and now we are only weeks away from traveling. We are starting to do things like buy travel necessities and make pre-travel to do lists. Everything is finally feeling real! We also have been attacking the daunting task of searching for flights and choosing a hotel. Although we would jump on a plane tomorrow if they told us to, I would have picked a better (cheaper, cooler) time of year to travel had it been up to us. We will hopefully be traveling around the fourth of July, and I find it so fitting that our newest little American will be arriving home around then. :-)

We have lots of odds and ends to finish before we go, but our biggest hurdle to jump is a financial one. With flights around the fourth of July being so high, we are working around the clock to bring in any extra money we can, and we still have our Reece's Rainbow fundraising site up (our page will become inactive when we head home). To be fully funded for our current expenses (as long as flights don't go up too much more than they have), our FSP (Reece's Rainbow page) would need to read $11,220.35. We are currently at $6,975.35, which means we are $4,245 from reaching our goal. With only a few short weeks to meet it, we are having to put our faith in God that things will fall into place. We don't have any more fundraisers planned since we are leaving in such a short amount of time, but Derek is still busy detailing as many cars as he can when he gets home from work each day. I have stopped doing any photo sessions for now, since I am only doing them on the weekends and we have events every weekend until we plan to leave. If you would like to help us get closer to our goal, you can make a tax deductible donation at:

http://www.ReecesRainbow.org/SponsorEmbry

We are so grateful for the support of our friends and family that have helped us get to this point. It is because of you all that we have made it this far. We are excited for what our future holds and can't wait to share it with you!

The Ugly Cry | Reece's Rainbow

We have news. Finally. After months of silence and waiting and anxiety and feeling all sorts of other feels... we have news.

It came via email as I brushed my teeth yesterday morning. I got an alert that I had an email from our agency on my phone, and I felt ZERO urgency in reading it. I was assuming it would be another email checking in to see how we were handling the wait, and I just didn't want to allow myself to go there again. I finished up getting ready and decided to see what they had to say. Within the first line of the email, I knew. This was the news we have been waiting (and waiting, and waiting) for! It took about three more seconds before I literally fell to my knees crying the happiest tears I have ever cried. And it was an ugly cry. Unfortunately for Claire and Nora, they had to witness my pitifulness, and they were NOT impressed. Nora yelled "stop crying mom!" per her usual bossiness, and Claire was so concerned that her mother was having a complete breakdown in front of her that she just stood silently with her arms around me. I was finally able to mutter the words "brother is coming home" to the girls, and they started an equally historical happy dance around me as I sat in a puddle of my own tears in the hallway. I can honestly say that I have cried the ugly cry better than any of those actresses on Grey's Anatomy. Take that, Meredith Grey.

What I learned from the email (that I can share), is that we are expected to receive the High Court Order in mid-June, and will be traveling to Hong Kong to pick up OUR SON (!) in late June - early July. We are so excited, relieved, happy, anxious and ready! We get to meet him via Skype in the coming days, which comes with its own set of emotions.

We have about $3,500 to raise before we leave, so if any of our friends or family have any awesome, easy, profitable fundraising ideas we could do in the next month, let me know! That's not asking too much, right? ;-) The easiest way to help us is to help spread the word, though. Our tax deductible fundraising site is:

www.reecesrainbow.org/sponsorembry

We can only fundraise with Reece's Rainbow until we go on our trip (even though our legal costs continue after we are home), so we are going to try very hard to get the final amount raised before then. Our friends and families have been so great in supporting us through this process, and we know we couldn't have made it this far without all of you good people! In a few short weeks, we will have a son, and he will have a family (complete with two crazy little sisters). It's so bittersweet to think this process is coming to an end, but we have lots left to accomplish before we become a family. If you're still reading, thanks for hanging in there with us these last two years. But.. I can assure you- our story is really just beginning.

Reece's Rainbow

I feel a little funny not mentioning Reece's Rainbow on the blog yet. I can tell you that single handedly, it has been one of the biggest influences on Derek and I's decision to adopt. Spend five minutes on their site and tell me it didn't give you heart palpitations looking at all the sweet faces needing moms and dads. 

Www.Reecesrainbow.org

Right now they have their Angel Tree fundraiser going on, so if you feel compelled to help but don't know how, make a donation to the child of your choosing! We often make small $5 donations to our "favorite" kiddos (but really, how can you choose?). It's not much,  but I can tell you that I would be THRILLED to receive $5 from a complete stranger who wants to support our adoption. That's why I love RR so much. 

We aren't using Reece's Rainbow to fundraise for our adoption. Hong Kong doesn't allow public listings of their waiting children, so they aren't listed on RR. I'm still HEAD OVER HEELS for this organization and have met some great people affiliated with it. There's even a family from Newton who fundraised with them and is picking their little one up as we speak. It makes this momma soooo happy to see the waiting children being advocated for. RR is giving a voice to those who would otherwise remain quiet. I can't think of a better organization to donate to this holiday season if you are having a hard time deciding! Well, I guess I can think of ONE! Our first family fundraiser is in full swing and we would be so grateful if you supported us by buying a raffle ticket (or ten :-). 

We hope you'll check out the RR website, as every person who views their site is a potential donor, mom, dad, or advocate. We aren't just passionate about OUR little one we hope to adopt, but all orphans still waiting on their mom and dad to bring them home.